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‘I had to pay her back for food’: Son says mum constantly demanded money after he became an adult

SINGAPORE: A frustrated man took to Reddit to share that his mum constantly demanded money from him the moment he became an adult and started working full-time.

In a post titled “Life is too tiring” on the r/asksg subreddit, he said his mum kept “hounding” him to give her money and even asked him to “pay her back for all the food” she bought for him when he was growing up.

She also cut him off financially the moment he graduated from polytechnic at 21. From shampoo and clothes to family holidays and daily expenses, he claimed nothing was paid for anymore. Every little thing came out of his own pocket, which left him feeling more drained than independent.

“I even have to use my own money to buy the things that I never got to buy when I was young and go to the places that I never got to go to when I was young,” he added.

As if that was not stressful enough, he also alleged that his mum told him to “buy his own house at 35” while still expecting him to keep handing over money in the meantime.

His situation became even tougher after he lost his job about a year ago. Since then, he said he has been struggling financially and can no longer keep up with the constant financial expectations, let alone save enough to think about buying a home.

Although he is currently pursuing a part-time degree in hopes of improving his prospects, he said he still feels stuck and hopeless, as his job applications have so far not led to any real opportunities.

“Your mum is not asking for much”

In the comments section, many users surprisingly sided with the mother, arguing that it is fairly common in Asian households for parents to stop financially supporting their children once they become adults.

One commenter wrote, “Ehhh, sorry to hear about your work, but not getting an allowance after you graduate, using your own money to buy things, go places when you are old is normal?”

Another added a bit sarcastically, “Wow. So many permanent children whining about not getting an allowance after 21 and being expected to—*gasp*—pay for their own toiletries.”

A third wrote, “Entitled kid…. your mum is not asking for much, you know that right?”

Meanwhile, another pointed out that parents also have to think about their own future and retirement.

“Your mom is getting on in age, I assume. She also needs to plan for her retirement. You cannot possibly be sponging off her until she is old, right?”

Still, not everyone dismissed the man’s frustrations. A handful of users said they could relate to the pressure of balancing Asian family expectations while struggling financially themselves.

One shared, “Same boat, Asian parent expectations with zero support. House at 35 when you’re still fighting just to land a damn job is wild. Failing endless interviews too; finding work now is just insanely hard.”

Another said, “Cut your [mother] off as soon as you find your financial footing—moving out would do wonders for your well-being if you can afford it. All the best.”

In other news, a 33-year-old man has sparked discussion online after sharing that he spends 10 to 12 hours with his 32-year-old girlfriend during each meetup twice a week, while also footing almost every bill.

In a Reddit post, the man said he started wondering whether their relationship dynamics were actually normal after feeling increasingly drained “emotionally, physically, and financially.”

Read more: ‘Is this normal?’: Man says he meets girlfriend for 10–12 hours twice weekly and pays every bill

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  • Police arrest man linked to more than 1,000 silent calls made in seven days Aiah Bathan
    SINGAPORE: A 37-year-old man was arrested after allegedly making more than 1,000 silent calls to neighbourhood police hotlines within a week, reportedly using foreign phone numbers in an attempt to avoid detection. According to 8world News, the calls were made between April 21 and 28, with police receiving a total of 1,035 silent calls linked to the man. Woodlands Police Division later identified and arrested the suspect. He is expected to be charged with intentionally obstructing a public serva
     

Police arrest man linked to more than 1,000 silent calls made in seven days

SINGAPORE: A 37-year-old man was arrested after allegedly making more than 1,000 silent calls to neighbourhood police hotlines within a week, reportedly using foreign phone numbers in an attempt to avoid detection.

According to 8world News, the calls were made between April 21 and 28, with police receiving a total of 1,035 silent calls linked to the man.

Woodlands Police Division later identified and arrested the suspect. He is expected to be charged with intentionally obstructing a public servant from carrying out official duties.

If convicted, he could face up to six months’ jail, a fine of up to S$2,500, or both.

The man will also reportedly face a separate charge for using a SIM card registered under another person’s details to commit offences. That offence carries a penalty of up to three years’ imprisonment, a fine of up to S$10,000, or both.

Police said they take such misuse of emergency and public service lines seriously and warned that action will be taken against those who abuse them.

Other related news

In another recent fraud-related case, a former company director was sentenced to three and a half years’ jail after cheating his own company out of more than S$100,000 worth of accommodation, services, and goods.

The 37-year-old man faced 23 charges, including cheating, obtaining fraudulent services, and forgery.

Read more about the news story here.

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‘If desperate, just take liao’ — Singaporeans weigh in after fresh grad receives S$3K job offer

SINGAPORE: A fresh university graduate in Singapore has found themselves caught between practicality and ambition after receiving a job offer paying S$3,000 a month —a salary they admitted feels difficult to accept, yet equally difficult to walk away from.

Compared with recent graduate salary figures, which place median starting pay anywhere from S$3,840 for ‘Arts, Design and Media’ graduates to around S$5,500 for those in ‘Information and Digital Technologies,’ the offer struck them as rather low.

Even so, the graduate admitted they are still seriously thinking about taking it.

“As a uni grad, should I take a job for S$3k?” they asked netizens.

The graduate explained that they completed only one internship during university and, after graduating, managed to land just a three-month temporary role. With limited experience and an increasingly competitive job market, they said they are worried about how long they might remain unemployed if they reject the offer now.

“I feel really pressured,” they said. “With the job market being what it is, I’m not sure how long it’ll take for me to find another job if I refuse this offer.”

At the same time, they admitted they could not ignore the doubts lingering at the back of their mind.

According to the graduate, the role comes with what they described as “a really lowball salary with minimal benefits.” The job allegedly offers no work-from-home arrangement, involves a demanding workload, and comes with average annual leave benefits.

“To be frank, it’s an assistant role, and it does give me a foot in the door to the industry I’m interested in, but I’m not sure if it’s worth it or if it’s better to wait for a better opportunity.”

“I would take it if I were you”

In response to the fresh graduate’s dilemma, a 41-year-old Singaporean said, “If desperate, just take liao. Uncle here with 12+ years of experience. I spent the last 1+ year upskilling myself with globally recognised certifications (10), and till now, almost 2 years, still unemployed.”

“To be honest, if you ask me now to take a big pay cut to do entry-level roles like an administrative executive that pays S$3.5–4k, I would take it. Pride cannot put food on the table. No job and no income are more stressful; at least if you can get something, it is better than nothing.”

Another user who has held one internship, one part-time work, and two full-time jobs in their lifetime wrote, “If it’s a step into your industry, you should take it.”

A third individual also encouraged the graduate to accept the offer, warning that competition in the job market could soon become even tougher.

“I would take it if I were you. The 2026 grads are graduating this month and are going to join the job market to compete with you; it will really be game over then. We have to accept that the days of S$5k fresh grad salaries are over in this economy.”

Despite the majority of responses leaning towards accepting the offer, a few commenters went against the grain and urged caution instead.

Some warned that taking a lower starting salary could have long-term consequences. One wrote: “Don’t take the offer. If you want to move on to another company after this job, they’re going to look at your last drawn salary and lowball you.”

Another commented: “If you feel the S$3k is too low, go find an internship to build up your portfolio first. After you have sufficient experience, you can fight for higher pay.”

In other news, a Singaporean tech worker has started dreading work after being “accidentally” shoved into a managerial role he never wanted.

Posting on the r/singaporejobs forum on Monday (May 11), the employee said he never had dreams of climbing the corporate ladder or becoming some big-shot boss.

Read more: ‘I just wanted to do my job and go home’: Tech worker struggles after being ‘accidentally’ promoted to manager

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  • Woman explains why ‘Chinese privilege in Singapore is real’ Anna Maria Romero
    SINGAPORE: A video of a woman explaining how and why “Chinese privilege is real” in Singapore has received a lot of attention online, with some commenters praising her for shining a light on issues some people face every day, while others said she should just be grateful for what she and other Singaporeans have. The young digital creator, who goes by @ahlianlia on Instagram, referred to another viral video where a woman named Olivia had said it had taken leaving Singapore for her to understand w
     

Woman explains why ‘Chinese privilege in Singapore is real’

SINGAPORE: A video of a woman explaining how and why “Chinese privilege is real” in Singapore has received a lot of attention online, with some commenters praising her for shining a light on issues some people face every day, while others said she should just be grateful for what she and other Singaporeans have.

The young digital creator, who goes by @ahlianlia on Instagram, referred to another viral video where a woman named Olivia had said it had taken leaving Singapore for her to understand what being a minority felt like.

“You don’t have to move to Switzerland to understand Chinese privilege,” said @ahlianlia, going on to list how racism in Singapore is present in everyday occurrences, such as malls setting up Christmas decorations even before Deepavali is over, Southeast Asians being called “maids” and racist jokes abounding in classrooms, where Indians are called a number of slurs.

“This racism is never casual,” she added, claiming that it shows up even in the education system, where SAP schools that were meant to “preserve Chinese culture have evolved into some of Singapore‘s most prestigious schools,” but there is no equivalent for preserving Malay and Indian culture.

As for the workplace, @ahlianlia cited job listings asking for Chinese language skills or requiring photos of applicants. She added that one in five minority race employees in Singapore experienced unfair workplace treatment due to their race, according to an Institute of Policy Studies (IPS) study and surveys from AWARE-Milieu insight.

The post author pointed out that Singapore Democratic Party candidate Ariffin Sha had been subjected to a racial slur during a rally for GE2025.

She then went on to explain how racism is present in dating and beauty standards and housing, and traced the roots of racial prejudice to colonial times

At the end, she added, “The greatest Chinese privilege is the privilege of ignorance. I grew up protected, never questioning my belonging in Singapore or feeling undesirable because of my race. There is a lot I remain blind to and have had to learn….

Chinese Singaporeans should give minorities the space to share without centring ourselves and listen even when it feels uncomfortable.”

Her post has since received hundreds of comments and over 3,700 shares, and many people thanked her for talking about an uncomfortable subject.

“Thank you for this video, as a Singaporean Indian, it heartens me to see more folks like you speaking out, gives me hope!” one wrote.

“At your age, you are already a strong ally of minority Singaporeans. You are and will always be a reason why I remain a proud Singaporean,” another added.

“Every year, we gotta be reminded of what Chinese Privilege in Singapore is. Thank you for doing your part!” a commenter wrote.

However, some underlined how good the situation is in Singapore in comparison to other countries, with one telling her to be thankful and not complain. But others stood up for the content creator and backed up the point she made. /TISG

Read also: Influencer’s claim that ‘Southeast Asia hates Singapore’ triggers online discussion

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‘Vasantham Chef’ Arifin now serving hawker food in Tekka after high-end restaurant shuts down

SINGAPORE: Local celebrity chef Arifin has been spotted operating a hawker stall in Little India after his high-end restaurant shuttered, months after a rebranding exercise.

Chef Arifin is not only a veteran chef who has spent more than four decades in Singapore’s food and beverage scene, but also a prominent media personality and well-known among the country’s Indian population. He is known by some in the community as the “Vasantham Chef” as he has appeared in several culinary programmes broadcast by Mediacorp’s Tamil-language channel, Vasantham.

The famous chef founded his own restaurant named Bacos, which quickly became a hotspot for local Indians and those hoping to taste the recipes they see on television or catch a glimpse of the chef who created them. Located at the Tekka Place shopping centre in Little India, Bacos was known for blending Indian and Italian flavours, something Chef Arifin describes as “fusion cuisine”.

The bold cross-cultural menu appeared to be a hit, with patrons lapping up unique dishes such as tandoori butter chicken pasta, fusion biryani creations, wraps, pizzas and other Indian-Italian hybrids. Reviews frequently mention the unusual flavour combinations and generous portions.

Despite its popularity, Bacos is no longer in operation. Chef Arifin, who previously shared in public about the difficulties of sustaining the business during the COVID-19 period, closed the doors to the restaurant on Nov 23 last year before the doors reopened under a new brand name.

A statement on Bacos’ social media page had said at the time, “Today is our final day operating under the Bacos name…But every ending carries a new beginning. We will reopen 29th Saturday, reborn with a brand-new identity, a richer heritage, and a whole new dining experience.”

On Nov 29, Bacos reopened as Anjaraipetti at the same ground-floor Tekka Place location, this time featuring a menu replete with traditional Tamil fare, with meals served on a banana leaf.

While the business was now being run by a new proprietor named Mr Vasanth, Bacos’ much-loved signature dishes slowly started trickling back into the menu before making a full comeback in February 2026, due to popular demand.

On March 25 2026, however, Anjaraipetti announced that it will be closing its doors for good. The restaurant team said on social media, “Anjaraipetti was never just a restaurant; it was a place of memories, laughter, and shared moments. Though we are now closed, the memories we created together will always remain. Thank you, Singapore, for your love and support.”

Months after the closure of the venture, Chef Arifin has been spotted behind the stove again but this time at a hawker stall.

Facebook user Kali Dass S spotted the chef whipping up delicious meals at a stall at the Tekka Market food centre. Sharing that Chef Arifin was “dishing out plates of mee goreng and other local favourites,” Mr Dass said online:

“There were no cameras or cooking show lights, just the chef serving customers directly. We ordered three items from his stall, and each one was a genuine delight and wow, comforting, flavourful, and clearly made with care.”

His post quickly went viral among Singaporean Indians, with many sharing that they will be visiting the food centre to support their beloved ‘Vasantham Chef’.

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Singaporeans revisit ministerial salary debate as PAP’s ‘brain drain’ warning faces scrutiny

SINGAPORE: Critics are once again prodding at the perennial hot-button issue of high ministerial salaries in Singapore, questioning whether the original rationale behind the country’s political pay system still holds weight after more than a decade without salary adjustments.

Singapore’s long-standing policy of paying ministers among the highest salaries of any elected politicians in the world has for decades been defended by the ruling People’s Action Party (PAP) as a necessary strategy to attract capable leaders, deter corruption and ensure strong governance in a small, resource-scarce nation heavily dependent on human capital.

Central to that argument has been the PAP’s repeated warning that Singapore could suffer a “brain drain” if political salaries were not kept competitive with the private sector.

Founding Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew was one of the strongest and most consistent proponents of this philosophy. Throughout the 1980s, 1990s and 2000s, the late elder statesman argued that Singapore could not afford to lose talented individuals to multinational corporations, banks, law firms and large private-sector employers simply because government service paid substantially less.

In defending the ministerial salary framework introduced in the 1990s, Mr Lee repeatedly stressed that capable professionals in fields such as law, medicine, finance and corporate leadership would be reluctant to enter politics if doing so meant making an extreme financial sacrifice.

The PAP framed the issue not merely as one of fair compensation, but as a matter of national survival. Mr Lee argued that Singapore’s vulnerability as a small state with no natural resources meant that governing quality was especially critical, and unlike larger countries, Singapore could not easily absorb weak or mediocre leadership.

Over the years, PAP leaders have consistently maintained that lower salaries could lead to several risks, including talented Singaporeans choosing private-sector careers over public office, experienced officeholders leaving politics prematurely, and weaker candidates eventually entering government.

The “pay for talent” philosophy became deeply embedded within the PAP’s political ideology and was defended not just by senior ministers but also by rank-and-file MPs.

In 2007, then-Deputy Prime Minister Teo Chee Hean defended ministerial salary benchmarking by arguing that compensation would naturally factor into the decisions of high-performing professionals considering whether to enter politics.

“It is what a young man in his 30s or 40s” would weigh when deciding between political office and lucrative private-sector careers, he said at the time.

Four years later, PAP backbencher Lim Wee Kiak triggered one of the most controversial episodes in Singapore’s long-running debate over political pay.

Dr Lim was quoted in the Chinese press as saying that if the Minister for Information, Communications and the Arts earned “only” S$500,000 annually, it could create problems when dealing with media executives earning millions of dollars because they “need not listen” to the minister’s ideas or proposals. He added that “a reasonable payout will help to maintain a bit of dignity.”

The remarks sparked a major backlash online and quickly became emblematic of what many Singaporeans saw as an out-of-touch political elite, especially because they came shortly after the 2011 General Election, when concerns over rising living costs, inequality and stagnant wages were intensifying.

That election marked one of the PAP’s worst electoral performances since independence, with the ruling party losing an unprecedented eight parliamentary seats to the opposition. The political fallout eventually prompted the Government to convene an independent committee to review the ministerial salary framework.

The review led to sweeping changes. The committee recommended significant reductions to political salaries, revisions to bonus structures and the removal of pensions for ministers.

It also overhauled the benchmark used to determine salaries. Instead of pegging pay to the top earners in the private sector, the framework shifted to using the median income of Singapore’s top 1,000 citizen earners, with a 40 per cent discount applied to reflect what the Government described as the ethos of public service.

The PAP said this discount acknowledges that political office should still involve sacrifice, while ensuring salaries remain sufficiently competitive to attract individuals who might otherwise pursue lucrative careers elsewhere.

Under the current framework, an entry-level minister at the MR4 grade has a benchmark annual salary of around S$1.1 million, including bonuses, while the Prime Minister’s benchmark salary is approximately S$2.2 million a year.

Despite these reforms, the issue has remained politically sensitive over the years.

In 2018, another review committee recommended that political salaries be adjusted annually in tandem with benchmark movements, noting that benchmark salaries had risen by about 9 per cent since the framework was introduced.

The Government, however, decided against making any changes at the time, citing economic uncertainty and maintaining that the existing structure remained sound. Another review planned in 2023 was deferred due to global instability.

The debate has resurfaced this year after an eight-member committee was formed in January to once again review political officeholder salaries.

The committee was tasked with assessing whether salary levels remain appropriate under the current framework and recommending refinements to ensure its continued relevance.

Earlier this month, Minister Chan Chun Sing revealed that the committee had submitted its recommendations in April, but said the Government would defer consideration of the proposals until there is greater clarity on the economic impact of the ongoing Middle East conflict on Singapore.

“The Government recognises that the Middle East conflict is still ongoing, causing major economic uncertainties and clouding the outlook for Singapore,” said Mr Chan, who also serves as Defence Minister.

He added that the committee’s report and the Government’s response would be released “at the appropriate time”, allowing MPs to debate both together in Parliament.

Mr Chan and other PAP leaders have repeatedly stressed that ministers’ official salaries have remained unchanged since 2012 despite rising incomes in the private sector over the same period.

However, that argument has now fuelled a fresh wave of questions online. Some Singaporeans have begun asking whether the PAP’s long-standing justification for exceptionally high political salaries has effectively undermined itself.

Some critics online are questioning whether the feared “brain drain” was overstated to begin with, given the fact that ministers have remained in office for more than a decade without pay increases, despite the Government’s repeated warnings about talent retention and competitive compensation.

Others have sarcastically questioned whether, by the PAP’s own logic, Singapore should already have experienced a decline in leadership quality or an exodus of capable individuals from politics due to stagnant political salaries.

Asserting that high ministerial pay distances political leaders from ordinary Singaporeans and reinforces perceptions of inequality, especially since many political officeholders are not full-time MPs and hold their day jobs, some are asking the Government to launch a public consultation on the matter.

The renewed debate perhaps shows how ministerial salaries remain one of the most politically sensitive and symbolically charged issues in Singapore politics, touching not just on questions of governance but also public perceptions of fairness.

It remains to be seen how members of the public will respond to the recommendations of the latest pay review committee when their report is publicly released.

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Relaxing massage turns painful after infrared therapy lamp allegedly falls on customer

SINGAPORE: A supposedly relaxing experience turned into a nightmare when a woman was accidentally hit by an infrared lamp in a traditional Chinese medicine clinic while having a massage. The lamp was hit by the masseur, leaving a second-degree burn in the shape of a  ‘spider-web.’

The 57-year-old victim reported to Shin Min Daily News that on January 23, she went to have a massage at a traditional Chinese medicine clinic located at City Square Mall. According to her narrative, the staff used an infrared therapy lamp to help relax her muscles, but when the staff moved the lamp away using her food, the lamp accidentally fell onto her back. She immediately went to a nearby clinic to see a doctor, especially since she was in so much pain at that time. 

The victim declared: “The doctor said I had second-degree burns and gave me a painkiller injection and prescribed pain medication.” 

She then admitted that the staff immediately apologised and gave her S$1,000; however, she claimed that the damage should be paid by the company, so she returned the money to her. 

“After the incident, the owner of the Chinese medicine clinic contacted me. Although he said he would take responsibility, he pointed out that I did not have the clinic’s doctor examine me at the time. He also said that he would only consider compensation after his doctor or a doctor he designated examined me,” the victim further added. 

With this, the victim was encouraged to complain to the management and the police. 

No compensation given yet 

The victim then demanded S$7,000 compensation from the company, but was unsuccessful. She revealed that she had spent more than S$560 on medical expenses and would need to spend more on lasers to completely remove the scars. 

The clinic responded that they are willing to cover the relevant medical expenses, given that the victim would allow them to know her treatment plan. The victim said that she did not want to sign any treatment packages until the compensation issue was resolved. 

Other related news 

In similar news related to customer accidents, there was a recent report where a customer claimed that a beautician had scratched her face with a blade while doing an eyebrow touch-up and failed to apologise. 

“I felt very disappointed with the attitude shown. Accidents can happen, but it is important to take responsibility and apologise to the customer,” the customer declared. 

Read more about the news story here

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Former para gold medalist Koh Lee Peng breaks down in tears after being labelled a beggar for selling tissues outside shopping mall

MALAYSIA: A viral video of former Malaysian para swimmer Koh Lee Peng crying outside a Kuala Lumpur shopping mall has stirred sympathy online and renewed attention on the struggles some retired athletes face after leaving competitive sports.

The emotional clip was posted on Threads by a woman who said Ms Koh had been selling tissues outside malls in the Bukit Bintang area for years. The video showed Ms Koh sitting in her wheelchair, covering her face while crying as pedestrians walked past.


The online reaction was immediate, with many viewers expressing sadness at seeing a former national athlete in distress, while others urged the public to support her by buying her tissues rather than offering pity alone.

Ms Koh is no stranger to Malaysian sports. Between 2001 and 2005, she represented Malaysia at the ASEAN Para Games, winning seven gold medals and three silver medals. She was also named Penang’s Best Paralympic Sportswoman in 2015 and received the Female Paralympian of the Year award at the 2017 Penang State Sports Awards.

She’s not asking for charity; she’s asking for people to buy her tissue papers instead

Several people familiar with Ms Koh’s situation said she prefers to earn her own living instead of depending on donations.

One social media commenter said members of the public had previously tried to give her money directly, but Ms Koh reportedly preferred that people buy her products instead.

That detail resonated with many online because it changed how some viewed her situation. The story stopped being about “begging” and became more about dignity, survival and how fast appearances can shape public judgment.

According to The Sun Malaysia, the matter reportedly became worse after some people accused her of pretending to be disabled or linked her to begging syndicates. Older reports from 2022 showed that Ms Koh had previously been mistaken for a foreigner and even asked to prove her Malaysian identity. These experiences have all taken an emotional toll on her.

Deputy minister says “irresponsible parties” called her a beggar, which caused her to break down in tears

On May 14, Deputy Youth and Sports Minister Mordi Bimol said Ms Koh’s breakdown was linked to emotional stress after being labelled a beggar by “irresponsible parties”.

Speaking to reporters after visiting her at home, Mr Mordi said Ms Koh admitted to experiencing similar emotional episodes before. He added that many difficult experiences in her life had built up over time, and crying became her way of releasing those feelings.

The ministry, through the National Athletes Welfare Foundation (Yakeb), has since arranged psychiatric support for Ms Koh at Kuala Lumpur Hospital. Mr Mordi also handed over RM1,000 (S$325) and a food basket to help her. Yakeb separately provided a new wheelchair and pledged RM500 monthly assistance for five months.

According to Oriental Daily News, her previous wheelchair was damaged in a traffic accident while she was travelling to Bukit Bintang to sell tissues on April 16 at 7 am, which was another reason on top of her past history; she was in emotional distress, as the car driver, who didn’t help her up, also blamed her for crossing the street at that time.

Ms Koh further explained that her breakdown was not caused solely by the accident. She said months of emotional setbacks and personal struggles had built up over time, eventually becoming too much to bear. Combined with a recent illness, hospital stay and poor sales from selling tissues, the accident reportedly pushed her into an emotional breakdown, where she was seen crying.

After news of her situation spread on social media, kind-hearted netizens managed to raise RM3,150 (S$1021) within a day to help her out.

The uncomfortable question of former athletes struggling financially

Stories involving former athletes struggling financially tend to strike a nerve because they clash with how society remembers sporting success.

Athletes are celebrated during medal-winning years, but public attention can fade fast once competitions end. For para athletes especially, daily life after retirement can become harder when health issues, mobility needs and job access remain ongoing challenges.

Ms Koh’s earlier experience mirrored that reality. She reportedly left an office job because accessing the building became too difficult due to disability-related barriers.

The viral video also ignited a fiery online discussion about how people react to people selling small items in public spaces. Some commenters said society has become too quick to assume scams or syndicates before understanding someone’s situation.

Others pointed out that emotional exhaustion can affect anyone, even people once admired on national stages.

A reminder to look twice, even thrice, before judging someone unnecessarily

Ms Koh’s story may have started with a viral clip, but the stronger public response stemmed from what the video represented: a former national athlete trying to hold on to independence while carrying years of emotional strain.

Helping someone doesn’t always mean handing over money. Sometimes it starts with just basic respect, patience and resisting the urge to judge strangers at first glance.

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