There are few things NBA fans can agree on. Is Michael Jordan or LeBron James the greatest player of all time? Do the Boston Celtics have the greatest legacy, or does that belong to the Los Angeles Lakers? Who’s the best player to never win a championship? These questions spur debates that have existed perhaps before some people reading this were born, and they certainly will continue long after everyone reading this has died. 

But there is one thing that many NBA fans believe is true right now in 2026: The Oklahoma City Thunder must be stopped. 

According to their critics, the Thunder are everything that’s wrong with the NBA. They flop and flinch at every turn, seemingly crumpling if someone breathed on them the wrong way. At the same time, they hack and whack their opponents on defense and are barely called for any fouls. They’ve turned this strategy into the winningest team this season and made what’s supposed to be a beautiful game unwatchable. 

There is no team in the NBA more hated than the Thunder. No matter which fanbase you ask, they are the villains. They have people, many of whom have no allegiance to the great state of Texas, rooting for the San Antonio Spurs in the Western Conference Finals, which are happening right now. 

But are the Thunder really that bad? 

Why so many people think the Oklahoma City Thunder are ruining the NBA

When it comes to team sports, hate is not a strong word. 

There are a variety of reasons why people hate teams, and it’s often rooted in allegiance to one’s own team and longstanding rivalries. Sometimes this is a matter of proximity and geography, like the way the Chicago Bears and Green Bay Packers can split allegiance among Midwest families or how the roughly eight miles that separate Duke and North Carolina have created college basketball’s biggest rivalry. Other times, it’s a matter of history. You see this with the Los Angeles Lakers and the Boston Celtics, or the New York Yankees and the Red Sox. (Sometimes people just hate teams from Boston, too.) And loathing can also stem from visibility and success, as any of the aforementioned teams, along with Notre Dame and Ohio State football, the Kansas City Chiefs, and the Los Angeles Dodgers can attest. 

In that sense, the Oklahoma City Thunder aren’t a unique case. 

They were originally the Seattle Supersonics, which may rub Washington state residents a particular way since they don’t currently have a home NBA team. (The sketchy manner in which the team was “relocated” from Seattle is also a point of contention.) The Thunder are also the best team in the league. As the reigning NBA champions with two-time MVP Shai Gilgeous-Alexander (who is generally known as “SGA”), they have a target on their backs. 

But the main reason NBA fans give for not liking OKC is that they don’t like the way the Thunder play. 

“The Thunder are constantly accused of flopping, with most of the allegations directed at their two-time MVP Shai Gilgeous-Alexander,” Ricky O’Donnell, the basketball editor and associate director of programming at SB Nation, told me. (SB Nation and Vox are both part of Vox Media.) “SGA certainly does play for the whistle often, and there are plenty of examples of him acting like he got crushed after what appears to be marginal contact.”

It’s easy to find these accusations on social media and Reddit forums, where fans scour game footage and post clips showing Gilgeous-Alexander falling, writhing on the floor, and hobbled over as if tremendous amounts of violence have been inflicted upon him. Those basketball aficionados allege that these gestures and flinches are merely illusions — embellishments to get calls — when, in reality, the Thunder aren’t fouled as hard or as frequently as it seems. 

Shai flopped on every single shot attempt. pic.twitter.com/EGsbp3dUbT

— House of Lowlights (@HouseLowlights) May 21, 2026

At the same time, O’Donnell explained to me, OKC plays defense in a way that pushes the rules to their limits. “The Thunder are betting that the refs won’t call a foul on every possession, and that means they can get away with playing with extra physicality,” O’Donnell said. “Thunder wing Lu Dort is just about the dirtiest player in the league, and he’s always toeing the line between acceptable and obscene amounts of physicality. I love Alex Caruso, but he gets away with a lot of hacking when defending bigger players, too.” 

In the eyes of their haters, OKC is double-dipping. The team attempts to get all the calls on offense by embellishing or exaggerating when they are fouled but doesn’t seem to get penalized for its physicality when playing defense. It’s not just fans who see OKC’s gameplay with this lens. NBA coaches have expressed the sentiment that their teams can’t breathe within the vicinity of SGA without a foul being called, and, simultaneously, aren’t afforded the same whistle against the OKC defense. 

The Thunder and SGA may take advantage of the rules, but not statistically more than any other team or player 

Despite the dominance of this narrative from rival fans and coaches, the statistics paint a slightly different story. 

“You would think they lead the league in free throws the way people talk about them,” O’Donnell said, explaining that he personally believes that the flopping narrative is somewhat overblown. “Yes, Gilgeous-Alexander was second in free throw attempts per game at 9.0 this season, but Luka Doncic led the league at 10.1, and no one talks about him as a flopper in the same way. If you go back to free throw rate — number of free throw attempts per field goal attempts — Shai’s 46.5 free throw rate even trails Austin Reaves at 48.7,” O’Donnell said.  

SGA, in O’Donnell’s eyes, does exaggerate contact, but fans are also looking for it more with him. “The reality is that great players get to the free throw line. … If you drive to the hoop a lot, you’re going to get fouled a lot — especially when you’re as good as he is,” he added. 

The intense focus on the calls that the Thunder do and don’t get may explain some of the vitriol. Refs could be missing calls left and right in other games, but these aren’t examined as intensely as they are in Thunder contests. Because the Thunder won last year’s championship, many of those games are premier national broadcasts and draw in an even bigger audience.   

One way to think about the backlash is that OKC is the best team at creating a style of play that takes advantage of the league’s current state of officiating. The NBA has made it a point this season to give offensive players the edge when it comes to straight line paths to the basket — essentially giving offensive players more freedom of movement. The league has stated that refs will call fouls on defensive players who make contact and aren’t squared up (i.e., defenders staying in front of and facing opposing players). SGA and OKC push that point of emphasis to its limit — perhaps to fans’, coaches’, and opposing players’ chagrin.   

The OKC Thunder will be villains until they lose 

For the last few years, the knock on the NBA is that it’s become a bit boring, with critics citing a lack of superstars and more emphasis on three-point shooting (teams are shooting more threes than they were a decade earlier, which can make for terrible games to watch if they’re not hitting them). Critics also point out that this may be one of the reasons the league saw a decline in viewership heading into the 2025-2026 season. 

The Thunder have been the top team during that viewership slump. They’re disliked. Their superstar doesn’t have a decades-long, multichampionship resume (and the mainstream recognition that accompanies that kind of resume). It’s not a stretch to believe that they could be seen as an extension of the league’s ills and confirmation for those who already have a distaste for the modern NBA. 

But, it’s worth pointing out that amid all this backlash and critique, this year’s playoffs — which the Thunder are an integral part of — have, according to the NBA, the highest post-season viewership in the last 29 years. That could mean that basketball enthusiasts don’t really hate the NBA or the Thunder as much as they say they do. 

It may also be evidence that tons of people are tuning in hoping that some team may be able to take down Thunder. Much like the way the NBA can’t officially gauge the number of fouls not called on the Thunder, we unfortunately have no way to scientifically gauge the number of hate-watch viewers a Thunder game might fetch.  

But, if that dethroning occurs, OKC’s status as the league’s supervillains could possibly change. 

“Narratives change quickly in the NBA,” O’Donnell said. “If the San Antonio Spurs knock them out in the playoffs this year, OKC will quickly go back to being an underdog again, while Victor Wembanyama and the Spurs will be the hated top dog. It’s always a cycle.” 

In an age where it feels like we should all know less about each other, there’s at least one place on the internet where you just want to know more: It’s called r/GirlDinnerDiaries. 

As its name suggests, the subreddit consists of women posting a photo of their meal accompanied by a brief story about what’s happening in their lives. 

That could look like a gripping saga about a raccoon that has chosen terrorism and theft. Or a woman insisting on riding on a motorcycle with the poster’s boyfriend. A large number of the posts are relationship-oriented: the various stages of dating (not, are, breaking up); sex and desire; problems and triumphs in marriages. And sometimes it’s just about eating chocolate cake for supper — okay, maybe it’s never just about chocolate cake.  

The confessions are met with commiseration, helpful suggestions (turn that thieving raccoon into a friend by investing in a puzzle feeder!), supportive advice, or just compliments on the meal. The commentariat is generally as open as the OPs (original posters), speaking frankly about their own experiences. They chime in to offer perspective on the realities of long-term relationships, the very normal reaction of feeling insecure about someone’s extremely beautiful ex, the warning signs of abuse, how expensive it is to raise children, and the difference between setting a boundary and punishing a partner. 

What makes GDD thrilling is that it is (or at least feels like) real secrets from real women. 

The posts aren’t the kind of life updates you’d see on Instagram, nor are they long, multipart “storytime” videos that people post hoping to get hundreds of thousands of views on TikTok. And perhaps that partly explains why the forum now gets more than 2 million visitors per week, according to one of its moderators (who ultimately declined to participate in this story). 

While our collective social media fatigue is high, people are still naturally curious about other people’s lives. And while GDD fulfills that desire, it’s also just a robust and thriving community in its own right — one that can teach us something about the power of a good story, our own curiosities, and the connections we allow ourselves to make. 

What are Girl Dinner Diaries?

GDD was created in January 2026, a spinoff from the original Girl Dinner subreddit. The idea behind a girl dinner is that it’s not a “real,” composed meal, but something messier (e.g., a chaotic assortment of pretzel sticks, crackers, and pickles versus a filet mignon with a side of asparagus and potatoes). 

r/GirlDinner is more food-focused, and centers the untamed spirit of women foraging in their fridges. r/GirlDinnerDiaries is about the girl who’s eating the dinner. (The sub’s description is, “For the feral plates and the feral thoughts. Post your unhinged meals, your relationship spirals, your late-night thoughts, your soft moments, your messy moments.”)

There are three crucial things needed for Girl Dinner Diaries: a girl, a diary entry, and a picture of food. (After publishing, a moderator for Girl Dinner Diaries reached out to Vox to emphasize that being AFAB is not a requirement to participate.) Separately, they can be interesting. But something magical happens when one girl tells one story with a picture of the supper she’s currently eating. It feels like bliss — a secret you’re not supposed to know, and an opportunity for a little moment of connection with a stranger that you didn’t know you needed. 

Alexandra Solomon, a clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships and is an adjunct professor at Northwestern University, told Vox that an integral component of human relationships is having witnesses to our lives. Social media seems like an obvious extension of this urge. But with apps feeling increasingly transactional and focused on getting views and likes, these platforms may not be satisfying the emotional connections we’re seeking when we share stories on them. 

We’ve all had the urge to text that friend about the annoying day we had at work, or to call someone to vent about the rude person we just encountered while running errands. The experience you’re discussing could be mundane, salacious, or anything in between, but the important thing is the connection. 

Solomon said that, in general, women are more inclined to do this than men because society encourages women to talk about their feelings, verbally express themselves, tell stories, and have the kind of conversation that “meanders from the ordinary to the profound, back to the ordinary.”

And the anonymity of a subreddit allows for more candid storytelling. While the desire to have people bear witness to our experiences is very human, people aren’t always comfortable telling their loved ones everything. On GDD, those barriers are gone, which allows participants to share and respond more openly.

“I think about my own friends, dear friends that I love, but I wouldn’t tell them I fucked up the laundry,” Solomon said. “Another characteristic of this community, though, is that when you say you fucked up the laundry, you’re going to get affirmation.”

Girl Dinner Diaries is community gossip 

GDD is also a look into how we can create online relationships and spaces that people actively participate in. 

“They’ve done a really nice job of creating community,” Melanie Green, a social psychologist at the University at Buffalo, told me. “They’ve sort of set this social norm of people being kind to each other and supportive of each other.” 

Green studies online friendships, as well as trust and identity on the internet. She explained how GDD’s rules — like “start with decency and restraint,” “engage in good faith,” and “tough love must be loving” — set a standard for how people behave on the site. (Also, if you were wondering, men are allowed to join but are encouraged to only react and comment with emoji and GIFs.) The moderators are also active in making sure the posts and replies follow the rules. Because these guidelines are implemented consistently, it creates a space where people are willing to share with more honesty. 

“Having those norms of supportiveness and positivity and things like that, I think they’ve sort of created a bit of a baseline of trust. It seems like people feel comfortable disclosing,” Green said. 

According to Green, people are naturally curious about other people’s lives, and storytelling creates trust and leads to bonding. “One of the things that stories can do is they help us feel a sense of belongingness. You feel that connection,” Green said. “It makes us feel like, oh, we’re all in here together, experiencing this thing, connecting with someone else who’s having this human experience, and maybe you’ve had a similar experience, and so you kind of resonate with that.” She also pointed to research that food, specifically comfort food — and one could argue these dinners, no matter what they are or what form they take, bring comfort — creates a sense of community. 

The overall effect is something that feels, for those who remember, like the old internet, specifically the comment sections of mid-2000s women’s websites like The Hairpin and Jezebel. The humor and thoughtfulness in the replies are just as valuable and tantalizing as the original posts. Everyone seems to be on the same wavelength and understand the vibe. It also helps that while conversations on GDD can get into darker topics, it’s still relatively (compared to the seriousness of current events) light. 

“Maybe in a world where things are polarized, intense, high-stakes, and urgent, we are craving spaces that are low-stakes, mundane, and ordinary,” Solomon, the psychologist, said. “You’re not going to feel activated or triggered or angry or scared. You’re going to just feel curious and supportive and supported, and you’re probably going to feel maybe a little more regulated when you leave.”

Update, May 19, 4:30 pm ET: This story has been updated with other information on requirements to participate in the subreddit Girl Dinner Diaries.